Broken Trust

So many stories - and they just keep coming!

Human relationships, regardless category, i.e., family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, email pals, are often fragile, because we each are complex individuals with our own histories, personalities, perceptions and determinations, not to mention expectations. Thus we come complete with our own baggage that often puts us at odds with each other.

However, given all the types of interactions that we consider to be relational, when trust is broken by someone close we must individually choose whether we are bound, even by contract, to someone if we find we have been lied to, misused or betrayed.

But it’s complicated with as many variables as there are humans so there is no pat answer except when the issue is mental/emotional abuse and possibly physical harm. That should end. There are those among us whose brains are mis-wired and cannot be fixed. But that’s another story for another day.

I figured out long ago that a rough experience can be a learning opportunity so when I am blindsided first I determine that it doesn’t have to break me. When we are surrendered to God’s will we can believe that there is a reason for everything. I also embrace that forgiveness is a medicinal life skill that usually benefits the forgiver way more than the one forgiven.

Again, many possibilities.

However, I get that ‘forgive and forget’ sounds so good and righteous and way easier said than done, but I also concede that it’s true that broken trust might not be forgotten but the lesson to be gained is not fully reaped until there is a letting go of the anguish which usually requires some form of forgiveness which might just be seeing the other as being as flawed a human as we are.

Swapping out the hurt for the epiphany is a liberating experience that propels one upward. Upward is good.

It is also true that realizing rough truth is way better than being fooled by fakery and pleasant lies. So, on the positive side, in a convoluted way, experiencing broken trust can be a launch to a maturing spirit.

Positive growth allows for better reactions to the next challenge.

Every negative experience can be a building block toward life sustaining wisdom. We don’t have to forget in order to forgive; we let the recalled experience add onto us to be stronger and wiser. Not stuck in bitter...

...more aware and discerning. Maybe even make it possible to be a good example, a rescuing hand up, for someone else just entering a tough lesson.

The ultimate best purpose for gained wisdom is shared wisdom.

Broken Trust ©2025 Meema Fields

[verse]

When I close my eyes

hoping I will sleep

my brain just can’t stop going

all the years gone by

memories I keep

the questions won’t stop flowing

can’t believe I was wrong

those words I thought were real

the toughest truth I had to learn

a broken trust might never heal

[chorus]

When the arguing is done

and the ink is dry

taped up boxes hold the past

when the winds of change

sweep all away

there’s a reckoning at last

[verse]

When I close my eyes

wishing I could sleep

my brain just can’t stop humming

counting blessings in the pain

fears I will not keep

in peace I am becoming

[bridge]

I get that I was wrong

those things I thought were real

sometimes we only see what we want to see

but one thing I accept for sure

the toughest lesson that I learned

I am stronger than before

but

broken trust

takes time

to heal

[chorus]

When the arguing is done

and the ink is dry

taped up boxes hold the past

when the winds of change

sweep all away

there’s a reckoning at last